This Mom's Open Letter to the Woman Who Shamed Her in Target Has Been Shared 30,000 Times

April 19th 2016

Laura Donovan

A Florida mom's Facebook post about how she was shamed for buying baby formula has gained traction on the platform for highlighting a difficult aspect of motherhood.

Annie Ferguson Muscato

Annie Ferguson Muscato posted an open letter over the weekend calling out a stranger at Target who told her that "breast is best" while she shopped for formula. Muscato wrote that a comment like this doesn't take into account the fact that some women struggle with breastfeeding.

In a personal and revealing post, Muscato said she had to change her diet, see more than one lactation consultant, and try multiple breastfeeding positions because her daughter screamed and cried every time she attempted to nurse her. This caused Muscato ample shame, which resurfaced when she received the aforementioned unsolicited formula remark from a stranger:

"And then finally, we tried the hypoallergenic dairy protein free formula you saw me buying today. And the screaming lessened. And my baby started smiling. She started interacting. She started sleeping. And I cried. Because I thought breast was best. I thought my body failed her. I thought she wouldn't be as healthy on formula. I know you think I must not care or I'm lazy, or maybe you were genuinely trying to be helpful and thought no one had ever told me the benefits of breast feeding. But, you are wrong. What I know that you don't is that breast ISN'T always best. I know happy, healthy baby is best. I know FED is best."

Annie Ferguson Muscato

She wrapped up the post by asking the stranger to be more supportive of mothers in the future.

"So, dear stranger, next time you see someone buying formula, try to remember that mamas should support each other. Think about everything you might not know. Remind yourself that 'fed is best' and smile because it means someone loves their baby enough to do what's best for them."

For some moms, formula is often the only option.

It's a subject even artist Adele has publicly confronted in the past, and might explain why Muscato's message has been shared more than 30,000 times and liked 37,000 times. In the comments, many parents championed the Florida mother for speaking out about this particular struggle. It's clear these parents aren't alone.


[H/T Cosmopolitan]