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Here's What Happens When Your Tinder Profile Says You're a Feminist

August 27th 2015

By:
Laura Donovan

Like so many other women experimenting with dating apps, Laura Nowak receives unsolicited, aggressive messages from hostile men. After placing the word "feminist" in her Tinder profile, she found that many male Tinder users lash out when they stumble upon self-proclaimed feminists. This inspired Nowak to create the Instagram page feminist_tinder, which has more than 48,000 followers and includes screenshots of conversations Nowak has with men who respond negatively to the fact that she is a feminist.

Nowak started the account earlier this year, but Instagram deleted it twice for "not following [the app's] terms." Feminist_Tinder has since been restored, and Nowak recently told the Huffington Post that she initially opened the profile to "learn what it meant to navigate Tinder as a feminist."

"As feminists, we hear all the time that we've already 'reached equality,'" Nowak said. "And I think that publishing these conversations proves that, at least as far as dating goes, we definitely haven't."

Here are some of the messages male users sent Nowak in response to her feminist bio:

 

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Not everyone commented on the fact that she put "feminist" in her profile, but one user did tell her to smile more (women often hear this and don't appreciate it) and just learn to take a compliment:

 

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"I think it's important to talk about these perspectives on feminism and highlight that misogynistic double standards are rampant and active in our culture," Nowak told HuffPost.

Feminist_Tinder isn't the only popular Instagram account that highlights absurd and sexist messages from men on Tinder. The popular Instagram page Bye Felipe, which has more than 360,000 followers, has become popular for publishing screenshots of exchanges between hostile men and women on social media and dating platforms. The Bye Felipe movement was born from the legendary "Bye Felicia" line in the film "Friday."

 

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Earlier this year, Tinder co-founder Whitney Wolfe created a "feminist" dating app to help prevent pervasive bullying and harassment, which many women experience upon turning men down on the platform. Bumble, her app created in part to improve the female dating app experience, is set up so only women can make the first move to male users. Wolfe hopes this will help create a safer, harassment-free space for women in the dating app world.

"I am a huge advocate for anti-bullying in our youth," Wolfe told Vanity Fair. "What I have seen with the rise of social media is that children are not facing bullying on a playground, they are facing it on their cell phones. Young girls are facing tremendous pressure on apps like Instagram, Twitter, and all sorts of social platforms... We are 100 percent feminist. We could not be more for encouraging equality."