Amy Schumer Exposes Why Some People Stay in Abusive Relationships

August 16th 2016

Laura Donovan

Comedian Amy Schumer's highly anticipated memoir, "The Girl With the Lower Back Tattoo," is finally out, and though it includes a number of jokes as expected, it also exposes a shocking part of the comedian's romantic history, according to E! Online.

Schumer revealed in an excerpt published by E! Online that she was once in an abusive relationship that got so out of hand, she tried to leave the apartment as much as possible, often going to Starbucks just to cry in the bathroom:

"I knew I should go back to the East Coast, but I thought no one would ever love me as much as he did. I believed he was just as passionate about me as I was about him, and that if I did a better job of not making him mad, we'd be fine. I really felt he loved me. And I really loved him."

ATTN: previously reported that it is not uncommon for women to believe — or be made to believe — that no one else will ever love them if they leave an abusive relationship.

Many women have commented on the mental struggle that abuse victims face through the viral hashtags #MaybeHeDoesntHitYou and #WhyIStayed:

Schumer said that she started to mistake her boyfriend's anger and aggression for "passion and love" and thought that love is supposed to look this way.

Schumer's account echoes that of other victims of relationship abuse:

"I actually started to think that real love was supposed to look like that. The more you yelled at each other, the more you loved each other. The more physical and demeaning it got, the more you were really getting through to each other. And the more I was willing to stand by him, the more he'd understand I truly loved him and that we should be together forever."

Schumer's abusive boyfriend routinely shoved her during arguments and disparaged her appearance, according to People magazine. On one occasion, he reportedly slammed her head onto the hood of a car and even pulled a knife on her, leading her to fear she was going to die:

"It can happen to anyone. You're not alone if it's happening to you, and you're not exempt if it hasn't happened to you yet."

Schumer is far from the only woman to face abuse at the hands of a romantic partner.

One in four women will experience domestic violence at some point in her life, and women between the ages 16 and 24 experienced the highest per capita rates of intimate violence of anyone, according to the domestic abuse resource group Safe Voices. One in three teenagers reported having a friend or peer who has been physically assaulted by a partner.

If you are the victim of domestic abuse and are looking for help, you can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-7233.