Woman Reminds Us Why It Is Never Acceptable to Comment on a Stranger's Body

August 8th 2016

Almie Rose

It's mind-boggling and disappointing that women who are going about their daily routine, whether it's jogging or waiting in line at the post office, are still body-shamed by total strangers. 


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One new mom shared her story about being body shamed at the pool, and it is an excellent reminder why it is never — ever — acceptable to comment on a stranger's body.

Here's what happened to Lexi Sinclair of Kansas City, Missouri, when she took her 4-month-old son to the pool and had the audacity to wear a bikini.

"While putting [my son] Christian's pool hat on, a woman (maybe mid 50s) comes up and makes conversation with me about Christian," Sinclair writes.

"She then proceeded to tell me that the men at the pool would feel more comfortable if I was in a one-piece swimsuit because a bikini isn't appropriate for a mother, especially one who's 'still recovering.'

It's clear what the stranger meant by "still recovering" and what's so infuriating is that it doesn't matter what a woman's body looks like (if she's toned and "recovered"), or if they're a mother, or what the men around her think — because no one else has the right to comment on your body. Your body is not an object, nor an object of discussion.

Here's How Sinclair Responded

"[...] I just smiled, kissed my son and told her, 'I'm proud of my body. In just one year I've gained 50 pounds, and lost 37. I've grown a human and given birth to a beautiful miracle. My body provided food for my child. So, no, my body might not be the best sight for other men to see. My stretch marks and tummy pudge might not be sexy. But they're proof that I've done something amazing, and I have a man that loves me and finds me even sexier and more beautiful now. To be honest, I don't give a tiny rats [sic] ass what other men think. Have a nice day though.'"

The Facebook Comments Praised Sinclair

Sinclair's post, which originally was posted on her own Facebook profile, has gone viral. "Never in a million years did I expect this kind of response," she wrote on her wall.

That she got an overwhelming response is encouraging; it shows that even though body-shaming happens, many are acknowledging that it's not in any way acceptable.