What This Dad Did for His Daughter Sets a Standard

August 4th 2016

Almie Rose

President Barack Obama is one of the many dads who have expressed the unique challenges of raising daughters.

And while one particular Redditor's dad isn't the president, he is absolutely worthy of admiration for helping his daughter through a particularly difficult time that comes with its own set of challenges (and taboos): her first period.

"[I'm] Grateful for My Dad Who...Isn't Grossed Out By 'Women Stuff'"

The Redditor, carlinha1289, posted praise for her dad in the subreddit TwoXChromosomes.

In the post Redditor carlinha1289 describes how getting her period at school was scary and humiliating...

"I started my period really young. I was 9, it was the beginning of August. My mom explained it to me quickly giving me a pad and sending me away. [...] I was at school and bled through my skirt and chair. My dad had to come and pick me up from school. I was crying, ashamed, didn't know what was happening."

...but, according to the Reddit thread, her dad knew exactly how to handle it.

"He took the day off, we got home, I washed, he washed my clothes, and then he took me to the store.

"We looked at pads together, he read them to me, we asked for the pharmacist's input and all. When we got home I had my own little 'period bag care' that I'd bring around pretty much all my life until I got pregnant over a decade later. He also did something amazing, he kept a few pads in his car, in the glove compartment. As I grew older (teen!) he also carried tampons and he must have refilled them as I used them because there was always one there if I needed one."

And he apparently, never stopped refilling them.

"17 years later, I'm at my parents house and my dad and I decide to go for a drive. I wasn't expecting my period but it happened. Right in the middle of the drive, full blown too. I start to look through my purse, in a hurry to make sure I have a pad. My dad sees me and asks if I'm looking for my phone or something, I tell him 'no, just a pad.' He tells me 'Oh, well just take a pad from the glove compartment. They're still there in case of emergency. Do you want me to pull over at the Tim Hortons?' (yes we're Canadian)

I almost had tears in my eyes. I've been told and read so many times about men being grossed out by periods, I've seen comments on this subreddit about how gross periods are and yet, my dad, isn't and is willing to go that little extra help to prevent embarrassment and to make my life a itty bit easier."

The point?

"Parents out there, don't hesitate to keep an extra pad or two in your car. Sometimes it's all that you need to make someone's day better."

Her Story Inspired Other Men to Do What Her Dad Did.

"As a father of 2 daughters (3 & 2) I am going to use your father as a role model," one Redditor responded. "Tell him thanks for being awesome from random internet stranger."

Another Redditor commented,

"Wow, I need to learn from this. My daughter is 8. I never really thought about how to handle this other than to say 'that's something to talk to your mom about' but reading what you said makes me reconsider this. Thank you for posting this!"

Some Shared Their Stories About Dads Who Weren't As Chill About Periods.

"You're lucky. My own father refuses to talk about my period with me, since it apparently grosses him out so much, and he seems to want me to pretend that I don't menstruate at all. It's really frustrating for me to talk to him during 'that time of the month,' so I tend to try to avoid him during that time as much as I can. (I live with both him and my mother, though, so avoiding him is a bit tricky.)"

But There is No Reason Why Any Dad — or Man — Should Be Disgusted with a Period.

It's unfortunate that some women have to pretend that they don't menstruate simply because the thought of it "grosses out" men.


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It's a regular, normal occurrence for millions of women, and girls shouldn't learn to be ashamed or afraid of their period or body in any way. There shouldn't be a period stigma, period.

Watch ATTN:'s video on ending the period taboo below.